My Favorite F-words
I always had a hard time figuring out how to put a ‘life’ together. It was difficult to get a model in my head of the prefect life because the only way to get the necessary information would be to ask questions. Apparently I did this the wrong way. I lacked the skill to engage in ‘small-talk’ and would often ask people direct questions about their lives. Some of these questions where too direct or too private.
I was also told what I can say and what I can’t say: some things were offensive, or hurtful or not tactful. I had to learn what certain words meant and when people used it for a different meaning or in a different context.
I had to get a framework in place, based on my own failure and learning and also by studying others relentlessly. For me to get some kind of life in place, I needed information and I did this by using the correct words, in the correct way, with the right tonality.
I have realized now that by being autistic, and having been diagnosed with ADHD, that I formed my own unique set of words or concepts which I believe would serve you in order to achieve wholeness in your life.
You need to have at least 80% of the following concepts in place:
FAITH / SPIRITUALITY
the unshakable belief that things are going to be okay. To live, as far as possible, in harmony with others and with nature.
be in pursuit of a fulfilling romantic relationship. Love deeply. Someone you can see spending ‘forever’ with.
to have some sort of balanced relationship with your kin. You will need them in the future or they will need you.
you need a soundboard of sorts, to test your ideas, goals and dreams. Choose friends who want the best for you.
follow a balanced diet to feed your body and your mind. Too much of anything is a waste.
FEE / SALARY
bring your own value to the marketplace. The fee that you earn for your time can be increased if you enhance your skill set which in turn increases your value.
spend less than what you earn. Sacrifice small present indulgences for greater future reward. Get familiar with the concept of compounded interest.
move more. A 30-minute walk daily has been proven to be enough. It helps to clear your mind.
celebrate good times but in moderation. Know when to be serious and when to have fun.
the first year most of us learn to read and write. The perfect tools to kick off your journey of discovery and education. Never stop learning.
Last but not least, and my personal favorite:
I have at least one moment of gratitude per day, just to realize the miracle of how lucky I am to still be alive. When you go to bed at night and fall asleep, you have zero guarantee that you will wake up the next day. I am forever humbled by the favor that mother nature does every morning to allow me to wake up as me: with my mind, my thoughts, my identity, my hopes, my dreams, my fears, my talents, my likes, my dislikes, my memories, my victories, my regrets, my successes, my failures, my vision, my uniqueness, my verve!
Please comment on this post by sharing your favorite F-words…but keep it clean please 🙂