How To Deal With A Bully

Bullying is a touchy subject for many people. I am not talking about the kid on your street corner calling you names. I am instead referring to something much more serious, like cyberbullying or physical bullying (poking, pushing, etc.).

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First Step

The first way to deal with bullies is to tell an adult. This can be a relative, friend, teacher, or even the principal of your school. If these adults don’t do anything to stop the bully from his/her antics, this will certainly not help matters.

Another way to deal with bullies is to stand up for yourself and fight back! Don’t let them push you around and intimidate you. Stand up to them and tell them they’re wrong.

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Now, I know what some of you may be thinking:

What good will that do? The bully is just going to push around someone else! That’s true. But then again, the bully might stop picking on you and start picking on someone who isn’t so outspoken about it! Also, if a bully realizes that you aren’t going to be a push-over, he/she may think twice about picking on you again.

Now, here’s the real secret:

Guys and girls don’t tend to really fight back against bullies. Instead, they talk behind the bully’s back, run away from the situation, or ignore the bully altogether. All of this just makes the bullying worse, especially if the bully sees that s/he can get away with it because nobody will confront her or him.

And don’t worry… If you tell an adult about something like this, they won’t be mad at you for fighting back! They’ll instead try to deal with the bully(s) too.

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One more thing to remember:

If you’re being bullied, it’s important not to blame yourself for what is happening to you. Sometimes bullies are just mean because they have no friends or something like that. It’s not your fault!

So now that you know how to deal with a bully, let’s look at some examples.

Example #1: You are walking to school, and a bully approaches you… What do you do?

Here’s what I would do: First, I’d tell the girl or guy that they’re being mean. If that doesn’t work, then I’ll stand up for myself and start standing up for myself. I’ll yell back and tell her or him that they’re not going to push me around anymore!

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Example #2: A bully is bothering you at school… What do you do?

Here’s what I would do: First, I’d talk to the principal of my school about it. If the principal doesn’t do anything about it, then I’ll tell my teacher. If talking to the teachers won’t make the bullying stop, I’ll find someone who can protect me (they could be another adult, like a police officer).

Example #3: The bully is being mean online… What do you do?

One thing you could do is ignore the bully altogether. If the person doesn’t stop after a while, then I’d block them so they can’t contact you anymore.

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Example #4: A friend of yours is being bullied… What do you do?

If your friend isn’t confronting the bullies, then they’ll probably appreciate you if you do so for them. If your friend does confront the bully, sometimes the results can be bad.

Example #5: A bully is bothering you at school… What do you do?

Here’s what I would do: First, I’d talk to the principal of my school about it. If the principal doesn’t do anything about it, then I’d tell my teacher. If talking to the teachers won’t make the bullying stop, I’ll find someone who can protect me (they could be another adult, like a police officer).

Another thing you could do is find out if there are any other victims. If there are, maybe you can all confront the bully together!

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One more thing…

Sometimes bullies will back down if confronted, and they realize that their bullying is not working. They might even realize that what they’re doing is wrong and apologize to the person(s) they bullied. If this doesn’t happen, or if the bully starts to apologize only to turn around and bully other children, then seek out an adult for help.

Lastly…

If you are being bullied, don’t blame yourself! It’s not your fault… Sometimes bullies pick on people who are too shy or scared to stand up for themselves.

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If you think that someone close to you might be a victim of bullying, it’s good to talk to them about the above information. Create a plan together! You can also ask others if they have been bullied or know anyone who has been bullied and see what methods worked best for them.

For example, maybe having one friend with you when confronting the bully will make him/her back down—or maybe blocking the bully’s phone number/email/etc. It makes him/her back down if he/she is being mean online.

Remember that there are lots of ways of dealing with bullies! Be creative, too – you don’t have to use all of the above methods… Maybe you can come up with something that works just as well or better!

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And if that doesn’t work, there are many other solutions. If one method seems to not be working, try another method, do something different entirely… But remember, you have the RIGHT to stand up for yourself. You have the right to say “no.” You have the right to defend yourself against threats and violence. And you have the right to get help from someone who can protect you if needed.

But remember, even though bullies are wrong, being mean doesn’t feel good either! Even if you’re angry or upset, don’t take your anger out on someone else! If standing up for yourself is hard, then maybe try writing things down or drawing things out to help you feel better.

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I hope this information helps you deal with bullies!

You can also seek other methods of dealing with bullying by talking to an adult, looking online, asking your friends… Be creative, and don’t be afraid to try new things! But whatever happens… Hopefully, the bullying will stop soon. And hopefully, you’ll be able to find a way to protect yourself!

Remember, don’t blame yourself for the bullying, and remember that it is never your fault. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the bully’s problems. You have every right to defend yourself and stand up for yourself. Don’t be afraid – you can do it! You can find a way to bully-proof yourself and protect yourself. And you can also try to make the world a better place by sharing your knowledge with others like I’m doing now 🙂 Might as well have a little fun while spreading kindness 😀

I hope this information helps you deal with bullies! Remember that there are lots of ways to deal with bullies, so whatever method works best for you, go for it! But remember, even if the bullying doesn’t stop, don’t blame yourself… It’s not your fault. And you can build up your strength and courage by helping others with their problems.

But whether or not the bullying stops – thank you for reading. And I hope you’re doing well 🙂

What Exactly Is A Bully?

Bullying

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Bullying has become a very serious problem in today’s society. While Bullying is usually associated with the stigma of schoolchildren, it can happen at any age and in all sorts of situations. The following article will aim to explain the definition, causes, consequences, and methods to curb bullies.

One should begin by defining what exactly is meant by the word bully. Merriam-Webster defines a bully as “a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.” Thus, Bullying can be defined as repeated acts of intimidation intended to create feelings of discomfort in the victim. A bully may not necessarily threaten his or her victim but typically uses coercion to accomplish the goal of intimidation.

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Bullying is a worldwide issue that affects millions of children and adults in some way. According to stopbullying.gov, “Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.” This definition explains that Bullying is a regular occurrence between individuals of different ages and typically involves aggravating another individual on a regular basis. 

Bullies tend to have specific traits in common. According to an article published by Psychology Today, “Bully victims are more likely to be physically weaker than their tormentors, a new study of U.S. Army soldiers shows, providing the first evidence that physical size may factor into children’s risk for being bullied.” In addition, bullies typically have some sort of charisma or charm that makes them difficult to confront.

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Another major cause of Bullying is social media. Social media websites like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are ideal platforms for bullies. Websites like these give bullies the ability to anonymously target their victims without fear of being reprimanded. Social media can also be used in harmful ways to demoralize others, even when the victim is not present. Cyberbullying is defined by stopbullying.gov as “the use of computers, cell phones, and other devices to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.” Cyberbullying can happen at any time during the day. As a result of this ease in which information is spread, cyberbullying has become extremely common.

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The consequences that come with Bullying can be extremely severe. According to stopbullying.gov, “A lot of Bullying takes place outside the view of adults and often goes unreported. Kids who are bullied are more likely to have health complaints. They may have headaches or a loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy.” In addition, victims of bullies frequently suffer from depression and anxiety. According to the article from Psychology Today, “In follow-up questionnaires administered three months later, the victims reported an average of almost two additional symptoms of anxiety and depression—and their mental health problems were rated as being more severe.” In some extreme cases, Bullying can result in death. According to stopbullying.gov, “Suicide was the third leading cause of death amongst young people ages 10–24 in 2012.”

Finally, there are several methods to curb Bullying. The most obvious is reporting the bullies to a teacher or authority figure. In addition, you can spread awareness by informing others of what Bullying is and how it affects its victims. A simple conversation can motivate others to take a stand against bullies.

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In Conclusion

Bullying is a major issue that affects millions of people worldwide. Bullying consists of acts of intimidation intended to create feelings of discomfort in the victim. Individuals who bully typically have specific traits in common and often use social media as a means to demoralize their victims. Consequences for bullying victims can be extremely severe, in some cases resulting in death. There are several methods to curb Bullying, but the most effective way is getting other individuals to take a stand against it. 

Is It Fair To Expect Neurotypicals To Understand Neurodivergents?

The Current Situation

Neurodivergence is a blanket term for a neurological condition that causes deviations from the norms of typical behavior. Neurotypical refers to someone who behaves in accordance with these norms, and this is how they are defined throughout the remainder of the article.

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Whether it’s autism, attention deficit disorder (ADHD), or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), neurodiversity should be embraced by all people, including those who are neurotypical. It is important for society to recognize the differences between each individual and allow everyone to contribute in a way that they can and want to.

However, it appears that this respect isn’t returned by all neurotypicals. There are loads of examples that show neurodivergent being treated poorly by their peers, from the pillorying of Steve Silberman to the mocking of a man with autism at a Donald Trump rally.

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Neurodiversity is a condition that many people have and do not choose. This is often the case with neurotypicals as well; many of them have conditions or disorders that they do not choose. Employers don’t hire people because of dyslexia, diabetes, depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD, etc.

Yet, these are conditions that society would never be able to function without – it would be a bleak and empty world if everyone was neurotypical. This is why it’s incredibly difficult for those with these conditions to live functional lives, as many of them face struggles every day that the average person does not fathom. It requires a greater degree of empathy than society as a whole has been able to give thus far.

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The pillorying of Silberman is a good example of the lack of empathy within a neurotypical society. Steve Silberman has Asperger syndrome. Asperger’s is not typically something that would be obvious to someone who doesn’t know him, and if it were, they probably wouldn’t care. However, he is a bestselling author who has written a novel called Neurotribes, which explores the condition and the responsibility that we have as a society to accommodate those with autism. When it won awards, many neurotypicals jumped on the bandwagon of shaming him, accusing him of self-congratulation, self-pity, name-dropping, and only writing his book because of his own self-interest. It was beyond ridiculous, and their responses to him were heartless and cruel.

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One man even said that Silberman should be sterilized, which is an absolutely horrendous thing to say about anyone, let alone someone who has dedicated much of their life to neurodiversity. This is not the only example of this kind of behavior; there are hundreds, if not thousands, of more accounts of neurotypicals bullying those with autism.

The amount of disrespect shown by these people is astounding. Neurodiversity affects every single person on this planet, and yet these people feel like they can bully someone who has it without suffering any repercussions. They feel that they can mock someone with autism at a Donald Trump rally, not realizing that this is exactly the kind of behavior that leads to fascist sentiment taking over politics. It’s despicable and insulting – it should be treated as such by society as a whole.

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Society needs to give Neurodivergents the respect that they deserve and to stop shaming them for their conditions. Not only this, but we need to recognize how these conditions can be detrimental to their lives and open our minds to personal growth so we can adapt to neurodivergent people – who we will most likely meet in our lifetime.

Conclusion

Society has the ability to be accepting and inclusive. However, it is clear that they need to adapt more in order to accommodate Neurodivergents in today’s society.

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