OCPD, Are There Any Benefits?

What is Obsessive-Compulsive PD?

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Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is a personality disorder that involves being preoccupied with orderliness, perfectionism, and control at the expense of interpersonal relationships.

What are the benefits of having OCPD?

In fact, there are several. But before we get to that, let’s have a quick peek at what being an OCPD is all about.

What does it mean to have OCPD?

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Well, in the case of Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD), having perfectionistic tendencies would be manifesting itself as preoccupation with details, rules, lists orderliness, etc. The reason this is an issue is that one with OCPD might have “a great deal of difficulty adjusting to things not going the way they wanted or expected them to go.” This could lead to problems in all sorts of interpersonal relationships.

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But that’s not all! Another fundamental characteristic of having OCPD is having a “preoccupation with work and productivity to the exclusion of leisure activities.” Talk about dedication! But what would motivate someone to be so driven? The short answer would be fear of failure. Being driven by perfectionism, one might not want anything less than perfect because not being perfect could lead to feeling bad things – like a failure.

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So, if someone is successful in the professional sphere (even though they might find it difficult to adjust to things not going their way), what’s not to like? Well, for one thing, having OCPD may limit the possibility of experiencing pleasure and happiness due to a lack of leisure activities. But that’s not all! Another problem is that one may be viewed by others as stubborn, rigid, and controlling.

And the benefits?

This brings us back to the benefits. Having OCPD can result in professional success! Now it makes sense why someone would be driven by perfectionism. Having OCPD could also provide an advantage over others in certain circumstances (like getting a job done properly).

So there you have it – three benefits!

  1. Professional success and career advancement
  2. 2. An advantage over others in certain circumstances
  3. 3. Finances might be more stable (due to preoccupation with productivity)

Autism And Financial Management To Avoid Debt Traps

Money Makes The World Go Around

When it comes to money, autism is a double-edged sword. Good budgeting skills can help avoid taking on debts. However, those with autism may have trouble saving up for emergencies or handling the unexpected costs that need to be paid ASAP.

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If you know somebody with autism and they rely on you financially (e.g. family, friend, etc.), it is essential to keep a close eye on their budget. In particular, you’ll need to be vigilant about debt.

If the person with autism doesn’t have a steady income source or hasn’t started working yet, there are ways to help them manage their finances and avoid debt – which will make life easier for both of you.

Autism can affect anyone in many different ways, so it is essential to know what your loved one wants and needs before suggesting solutions to their problems. This will be key for building trust between the two of you, leading to a good relationship – both financially and emotionally wise.

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Some people may have sensory issues, which means they feel discomfort (e.g. pain, heat, cold, etc.) if their senses are disrupted or overloaded (e.g. loud noise)*. If your loved one has sensory issues and you’re suggesting ways to manage money better – do it in an area that’s quiet with little distractions around them.
This will be especially helpful for ideas about saving money or even ways to start making more.

At the same time, if your loved one has autism – do not take it personally if they don’t take your advice or appear uninterested in your suggestions. They might see you as just another person giving them advice – which can be annoying and frustrating. That’s why it’s crucial to build a good relationship with them before trying to advise that they might not want or need.

Financial Abuse

If your loved one is showing signs of financial abuse, you must show them what steps to take next and how they can get help (e.g. contact the police, financial aid, etc.). Financial abuse is a serious offence, and it can happen to anybody – not just people with special needs. You may think it’s impossible because they don’t have any money – but that isn’t the case. Often, family members or loved ones take advantage of them financially by manipulating them into thinking they’re “helping” them by doing things for them (e.g. paying their bills, buying their groceries, etc.).

If you know somebody with autism and they’re in a difficult financial situation – here are some solutions that can help:

Enable or disable online shopping.

This might be something they love to do, but it becomes an issue when combined with impulse shopping. It’s best to make sure you disable online shopping if they can’t afford what they’re buying (e.g. the groceries) and enable it again when their budget is working for them.

Be aware of any changes in spending habits.

This means being vigilant about your loved one’s daily, weekly or monthly routine – especially if it has changed. This can range from regularly going out to regularly staying indoors or periodically spending more time on the internet (e.g. social media, online shopping, etc.).

An activity timer.

Sometimes autism can make it seem like our loved one is fidgeting around too much, making them difficult to watch over when times are tough. In this case, an activity timer can help parents and carers keep track of how active our loved one is – which will allow them to either give more attention or do other things while they’re busy.

Income sources.

If your loved one has started working already, you must know their income sources (e.g. their salary, etc.) and how they can be paid (e.g. direct deposit, eft, check). This will help you manage the budget more effectively if they know what to expect when money comes in or goes out of your account.

In Conclusion

As a parent or caretaker, you must know your loved one’s wants and needs before trying to help them. This will keep them motivated (e.g. when they’re doing better) and prevent the relationship from falling apart (e.g. when they don’t trust you).

Autism and Money Management

I have made a lot of money in my younger years but spent it all on stupid things because I had no idea what money actually is. Only now do I manage my finances better after using a basic spreadsheet and keeping track of my income and expenditure.

The following article is very interesting:

Financial Resources For Adults With Autism

To venture out into the world as an independent adult is daunting for anyone at first. However, for individuals with autism, they face unique challenges that aren’t generally a concern for those without this developmental disorder. Although there are a number of areas to consider, such as employment, financial planning is a key area of focus for many friends and family members aiming to support their loved one with autism.

Whether your loved one is planning on moving out or has already made this transition, financial issues may continue to appear, leaving you concerned and overwhelmed.

Understanding Issues Surrounding Autism and Saving Money

Money management is an area of concern for millions across the United States and the globe. There’s no denying that money management and financial planning are skills. However, for individuals with autism, these skills are often much harder to learn than they are for the general population — and it’s not due to a lack of understanding.

As reported in one key study, after interviewing youth with autism (aged 16-25), it was found that the majority not only recognized that financial understanding is an essential component of being an independent adult, but that they also felt frustrated with their money management skillset. Another study found that money is a significant barrier and source of anxiety among individuals with autism.

Although each case is unique, many people with autism tend to spend money on things they want, like video games, movies, or anything else that they enjoy collecting. If they are comfortable, they may also spend a lot of money eating out, leaving little money for important things, like rent and bills.

When it comes to budgeting, bank accounts, and saving, it can all be a bit overwhelming — especially if someone with autism gets into debt. That is why it’s imperative that financial support for adults with autism is available.

Money Management Isn’t Typically a Priority for Children with Autism — Which Can Have Lasting Effects

Depending on where a child with autism falls on the spectrum, therapy in the early years can be highly specific. For years, children attend therapy in order to improve reading and verbal literacy, strengthen social skills, and work on problematic behaviors. For the majority of children, money isn’t a topic of conversation that’s ever mentioned.

By the time an individual transitions to young adulthood, and begins planning for their independence, this is an area that tends to be underdeveloped. Banking, for instance, can be incredibly confusing and overwhelming. However, there are now some autism-friendly branches that aim to make this experience easier and less chaotic for those in need.

To Better Prepare for Independence, Adults with Autism Require a Plan and Support

A lack of financial understanding can cause a significant gap, creating a barrier in terms of becoming independent. For those with autism, they often require a plan and your ongoing support, as well as tools they can leverage. The goal is to start as soon as possible.

The following suggestions are great financial resources for adults with autism and help guide you and your loved one along your unique journey. Be sure to adapt key steps based on personal needs, preferences, skill sets, and behaviors.

Step one: Start now

Whether your loved one with autism is twelve or thirty, now is the time to start discussing the role that money plays. Whenever possible, put this into practice. For example, if you need to run an errand, encourage your loved one to pay for small amounts at the grocery store or gas station.

To do so, choose stores where your loved one feels comfortable and has already met the cashier. When you visit stores, remain mindful of what triggers your loved one from a sensory perspective.

Tip: An allowance in exchange for paid chores is often a benefit. Once your loved one has saved enough money from their chores, you can set up a bank account for them to become familiar with in terms of the process and financial terminology.

Step two: Discuss peer pressure

Many adults with autism are desperate to please others and fit in socially. In some cases, they may be manipulated into lending someone money or spending more than they can afford while out with someone who is willing to take advantage of them. The same is true when it comes to salespeople. Their main objective is to sell, which, unfortunately, may lead to untrustworthy misinterpretations.

Read more: Social Skills Activities for Adults with Autism: What’s It All About?

Tip: If you’re concerned that someone has taken advantage of your loved one, you may want to track and review receipts to better understand their purchases. This will be a good time to discuss the monetary value of items and how important budgeting is.

Step three: Make a monthly budget and use visuals

Each month, create a budget in the form of a checklist. Once a high-priority transaction has been made, check it off. Once spending is complete for that month, compare the planned amount vs what was actually spent. For example, you may have budgeted $50 for groceries during week one, but the actual amount spent was $67. Complete this step for each item on your checklist to see if there are any problem areas that really stand out.

Tip: If possible, use visuals to better communicate. For example, pie charts can be helpful. A budget can also be created using a pyramid with different layers (i.e. essential items like rent, food, transportation may be one layer, whereas non-essential items like eating out can be represented as another.

Additional Financial Resources for Adults with Autism

Money management isn’t a skill that anyone learns overnight. It will be important to remain patient and adapt to your unique situation. Also, be sure to leverage as many beneficial resources and support systems as possible. While there are certainly great resources in your local community, here are some tools to help get you started.

Do you require further support? If so, please check out the services offered by the Adult Autism Center of Lifetime Learning. Do not hesitate to reach out regarding any questions or concerns you may have — contact us today!

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Day 12 post failed suicide attempt – How I made money

5:00am

I wake up. Nurse takes my blood pressure.

Breakfast.

Shower.

I get dressed and make myself a cup of coffee. The Psychiatrist will only arrive at 10:00 so I decide to sit and review my career path. How did I make money?

Where did money come from?

The Origin of Money[ii]

There are three major theories regarding the origin of money:-

1 Money was created for trading purposes;

2 Money was created for social purposes;

3 Money was created for religious purposes.

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What is money?

Characteristics of Money

Money has three characteristics according to the economists:-

1 Means of Payment;

2 Unit of Account;

3 Store of Value.

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What is money really?

Money exists not by nature but by law[ix]

Aristotle, Greek Philosopher (384 BC – 322 BC)

Clearly in the 4th century BC, almost 2,500 years ago, Aristotle understood the nature of money. Money is not a commodity that is to be mined like gold or silver. Money is not a commodity to be farmed like wheat or barley. Money is not an animal like a cow or a goat. The nature of money is that it is a legal invention. Money is a creature of the law. The Greek name for money is ‘nomisma’, which is derived from ‘nomos’ meaning law or binding custom. Aristotle defined money as an abstract legal power, publicly controlled for the common good.

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MY so-called CAREER

So,

I have been working for just over 2 decades. I earned salaries and I followed the ‘normal’ path of the Consumer and I bought stuff. It was always confusing to me to figure out what money is and what it does. It confuses me?!

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I understand bartering, I also understand that when you create something you get rewarded for your time and effort, which kind of determines the value of said creation.

What I struggle with is that a Seller and a Buyer can decide what the ‘price’ is of anything they wish to transact over. So, to me, the price is not at all tied to the value, because it is subjective.

That’s how I figured out that my intrinsic value is not the same to two different employers. One may want to pay me $1000 per week and the other $2000 per week.

It depends on how much my skill set can help him increase the value of his offering and his ability to get a good price when selling it. I am just a product to my employer, and when I start asking for more money, he can just say no and if I then resign he can just replace me. I do not resign because my life has been set up in such a way that I need the salary to support my life, which I set up. So now I stay in a miserable job and I never get the salary I think I’m worth.

Mmmm……

Things are about to change:

Now that I have been given the gift of knowing how my mind works, I can figure out how to be more valuable and how to earn more money on my terms aligned with how much I value myself. I am a problem solver by nature and I just need to find a problem I can solve. Not just for one person, but for everyone.

I have been in the wrong positions my entire life!

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The Psychiatrist arrives and we discuss my epiphany regarding how strange money is to me. He advises me that people with my condition sometimes struggle with the concept and need help to assist them with realizing their potential. He confirms that I look rested, energized and focused today. Nice…

He leaves and I have a cup of tea.

Lunch

The Psychologist arrives at 14:00 and we discuss money and employment and careers. He pointed out that I need to really take a look at where I am now in life and decide whether it would be mentally stimulating to continue with my current career path. He also stated that it gets more difficult to change your career the older you get. Well, I feel very ‘young’ now that my new life has begun, so I will go and think about my strategy to either remain at the company I am working at right now, or to decide on a new path.

Our session ends and he leaves.

Dinner

Shower and coffee again.

“What am I doing with my life?” I think.

I need to start making money based on my value and skill set, not according to someone else’s value they assign to what I bring to the table, which is just modern slavery I guess.

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I start to read up on ‘How to make money’, ‘How to make money online’ and ‘Work from home’.

Wow, what a lot of false claims and smoke and mirrors and illusions and delusions of grandeur. And what on earth is Bitcoin?

I give up and decide to get some rest.

I take my medication, get into bed and think: “How do other people make money? Who will help me to make money?”

And I drift into darkness…