How To Stand Up For Yourself

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With all the violence in today’s society, it may become easy to feel as though you are not safe. Whether it be walking down the street or standing up for yourself at school, it is important to stand up for yourself if something doesn’t seem right. It can be hard to speak up when you’re afraid of being ignored, ridiculed, harassed, assaulted, or even killed. The best thing you can do is practice how to defend yourself before a threatening situation arises.

If that isn’t possible, then you need to learn how to stand up for yourself now – here are some suggestions on how:

1) Be aware of your surroundings and what’s going on around you so that you have time to plan an escape route if necessary.

2) Figure out the best way to get help. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Otherwise, find someone with authority that is close by and ask for their help.

3) Set a timer on your phone or watch before you start yelling; this way, you’ll know roughly how long it took for someone to come save you, which can give you an idea of what to do next time if the same thing happens again.

4) Tell people what’s going on – You are not alone! Let others know what’s happening so they can try to either stop the problem themselves or protect themselves from getting hurt as well. Don’t be afraid of looking foolish… taking care of yourself is more important right now than worrying about what others think.

5) Trust yourself! You know you deserve to be treated with respect, so don’t let anyone make you feel like you are wrong for speaking up. Some cases of violence against women stem from not trusting themselves and their instincts… don’t let this happen to you!

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If a threat is imminent, one thing that can help is to shout out a phrase such as “NO!” or “STOP!” Have your voice project through the air while staying firm and confident in your tone. It will take a lot of practice if you’re not used to yelling, but the more often you do it, the easier it will get. This shows that you mean business and won’t just stand there being victimized. Once the threat is gone, DO NOT turn your back on them and start walking away. You never know when they will change their mind and come for you again. Get to a safe place where there are other people and wait for the police if necessary.

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This next step applies only if escape is impossible:

1) Be aggressive! If someone has cornered you or is threatening you with violence, don’t hold back – stand up for yourself! Make noise by kicking, stomping, screaming, whatever it takes to get the attention of others around you (or at least let him/her know that you won’t be an easy target). Your safety is more important than worrying about what others think of you yelling in public. They probably already think you’re some helpless victim anyway, so what do you have to lose?

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2) If you feel like the attacker is getting ready to hit or stab you, then it’s time to defend yourself. Make sure that he/she knows that this is not going over well with you and make them think twice about whether their actions will be worth any consequences they might face – such as legal problems, lawsuits etc… The best way to do this would be a physical attack of your own like pushing, punching (though this could get you into trouble), scratching and even biting (this shouldn’t draw blood).

There are three reasons for doing this:

  • It will throw him off guard
  • It will let him know he won’t just get away with whatever he has planned, and
  • It shows that you are not weak (in some cases, it could be worth your while to make him think this). No one wants to hit or stab a person who fights back.
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You might feel like you’re overreacting because you’re afraid, but remember that feeling is there for a good reason! If you stay passive, then the threat still exists and will continue to grow if nothing changes. You can’t just allow someone else to mace, knife, shoot or beat you up – stand up for yourself!

These tips should help you figure out how to stand up for yourself but keep in mind that there are other things involved… such as learning what triggers certain feelings so they don’t escalate into something more dangerous, learning self-defense techniques and looking out for the signs of a potentially violent situation.

What Exactly Is A Bully?

Bullying

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Bullying has become a very serious problem in today’s society. While Bullying is usually associated with the stigma of schoolchildren, it can happen at any age and in all sorts of situations. The following article will aim to explain the definition, causes, consequences, and methods to curb bullies.

One should begin by defining what exactly is meant by the word bully. Merriam-Webster defines a bully as “a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.” Thus, Bullying can be defined as repeated acts of intimidation intended to create feelings of discomfort in the victim. A bully may not necessarily threaten his or her victim but typically uses coercion to accomplish the goal of intimidation.

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Bullying is a worldwide issue that affects millions of children and adults in some way. According to stopbullying.gov, “Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.” This definition explains that Bullying is a regular occurrence between individuals of different ages and typically involves aggravating another individual on a regular basis. 

Bullies tend to have specific traits in common. According to an article published by Psychology Today, “Bully victims are more likely to be physically weaker than their tormentors, a new study of U.S. Army soldiers shows, providing the first evidence that physical size may factor into children’s risk for being bullied.” In addition, bullies typically have some sort of charisma or charm that makes them difficult to confront.

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Another major cause of Bullying is social media. Social media websites like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are ideal platforms for bullies. Websites like these give bullies the ability to anonymously target their victims without fear of being reprimanded. Social media can also be used in harmful ways to demoralize others, even when the victim is not present. Cyberbullying is defined by stopbullying.gov as “the use of computers, cell phones, and other devices to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.” Cyberbullying can happen at any time during the day. As a result of this ease in which information is spread, cyberbullying has become extremely common.

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The consequences that come with Bullying can be extremely severe. According to stopbullying.gov, “A lot of Bullying takes place outside the view of adults and often goes unreported. Kids who are bullied are more likely to have health complaints. They may have headaches or a loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy.” In addition, victims of bullies frequently suffer from depression and anxiety. According to the article from Psychology Today, “In follow-up questionnaires administered three months later, the victims reported an average of almost two additional symptoms of anxiety and depression—and their mental health problems were rated as being more severe.” In some extreme cases, Bullying can result in death. According to stopbullying.gov, “Suicide was the third leading cause of death amongst young people ages 10–24 in 2012.”

Finally, there are several methods to curb Bullying. The most obvious is reporting the bullies to a teacher or authority figure. In addition, you can spread awareness by informing others of what Bullying is and how it affects its victims. A simple conversation can motivate others to take a stand against bullies.

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In Conclusion

Bullying is a major issue that affects millions of people worldwide. Bullying consists of acts of intimidation intended to create feelings of discomfort in the victim. Individuals who bully typically have specific traits in common and often use social media as a means to demoralize their victims. Consequences for bullying victims can be extremely severe, in some cases resulting in death. There are several methods to curb Bullying, but the most effective way is getting other individuals to take a stand against it.